The Cotyledons’ Role

If you are familiar with the scientific terms for the different stages of germination of a seed, you may know “cotyledons” or the seed leaves which play a crucial role in the early growth of the baby plant by supplying nutrition to it. They are present just beneath the seed coat and store food for the embryo to grow.

But what’s fascinating to me is, though they are much significant, the role of cotyledons is very short in the development of a plant. Once the baby plant grows in size, develops more leaves, begins the process of photosynthesis, the cotyledons will shrink and disappear.

We often notice the flourishing green plants and trees and their visible parts like stem, branches, leaves, flowers and fruits but little is known about the life-preserving cotyledons which sustain the baby plant from withering.

A thought struck me as I continued reading the science lesson on germination. Sometimes we too play the cotyledons’ role in other’s lives. The role might be for a short period but it’s very crucial in sustaining someone’s faith, someone’s self-assurance, someone’s determination, someone’s courage or someone’s life itself.

Recently, a 22 years old Muslim girl who stays with her husband and a 2 year old daughter next to our flat approached me for help. They had recently shifted and I hardly had spoken to her earlier or knew her name. She needed my phone to call her relatives. When I asked her if everything was ok, tears began to flow on her cheeks. She narrated her ordeal to me for the next two hours. She was a victim of domestic violence. She and her daughter were left alone by her husband during the night. She was frightened and shattered. She needed help. She needed someone to just listen to her. With bit of Malayalam and English I communicated with her and encouraged her to be strong in this situation. I didn’t realize how my trivial act of being a listener to her could make a significant difference in her life until a couple of hours later, when I went to her with a meal and asked if she needed anything, she hugged me saying that I have come for her help like her own sister. Perhaps, I played the Cotyledons’ role in her life to sustain her strength and courage during that specific and trying time of her life…….

Once we attended a church meeting and wanted the pastor who is also a renowned prophet to pray for our family, especially for our daughter. But he had some further ministry engagements so he needed to rush to the other place after the church meeting. He could only spend half a minute to pray for her. Disappointment began to settle in my heart as we were returning home. While we were in the parking place, we happened to meet an old-aged woman who was the mother of the prophet. She was in her 70’s and looked very simple and gentle. She spoke to us and wanted to know about our daughter’s medical condition. She listened to us and with her simple words encouraged us not to give up on our faith or ever question God for the trials we face. Her benevolence touched my heart. Though she wasn’t given any specific official position in the church ministry, she ministered to us in an authentic way with her unique giftedness.  She served as a cotyledon for me to sustain my dismayed heart……

A few days back, I came across a news article about a meal delivery company which honored its delivery agent for his kind act. The delivery agent drove 12 kilometers in heavy rain to deliver food to a woman who had an unwell one year old baby.  The agent went above and beyond the call of duty as he hurried to get medicine for the baby in the pouring rain during the night. He drove the next 10 kilometers to buy the medicine. I am sure the agent served like a cotyledon for the mother as he sustained her faith in humanity by his compassionate act…….

My son Asher was so excited to get new friends in the apartment where we recently shifted. I too was relieved to see him play outside with other kids. He tried his best to be a good friend to them. But soon the kids formed a group and began to shout at Asher saying, “You go back to your home, don’t play with us”. My heart felt heavy hearing their words. When he came upstairs, I didn’t know how to approach him. Fighting back my tears and clearing of my throat, I comforted him saying that he tried his best to be a good friend. It’s alright if they don’t want you. I wanted my words to sound louder than the words of rejection the kids hurled at him. Perhaps I played a small yet significant cotyledons’ role by nourishing his soul with assuring words and prevented the feeling of rejection to further take roots in his mind……..

In the vast and flourishing plants, even though the cotyledons’ role is for a very short period and it’s not even visible, it sure is substantial for the baby plant. Similarly, sometimes if you wonder what your role or place is in the massive works of the kingdom of God, where mission trips, crowds, glamorous platforms, outreaches, and crusades are considered the most important means to expand the kingdom work, let us remember, you and I are also playing a significant role by our simple daily acts as we extend His kingdom with His love, kindness and compassion. We are playing the cotyledons’ role which might not be visible and long-lasting but it sure is vital to nourish, protect and reinforce the feeble souls God places in our lives.

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For The Audience Of One

This week in our homeschooling community, children are learning about the great Italian artist and sculptor, Michelangelo. One of his best-known and loved works is his painting on the ceiling of the Sistine Chapel in Rome. He painted the ceiling entirely while lying on his back. To do this, he had to build a tall and strong scaffold with wooden planks so that he could climb the scaffold and be close enough to the ceiling to paint it.

As children learn about him, they are to tape a sheet of paper underneath a table and paint a picture by lying down on their backs.

There is an inspiring story about Michelangelo. One day as he was painting the Sistine Chapel, one of his aides came in to check on him. When he walked into the chapel, there were candles everywhere. It was all dark and musty. Michelangelo could not be seen. So his aide cried out, “Michael?” He heard no sound. “Michael, are you here?” He heard some noise in the corner in the dark, behind the post, up above the nave in the secret place where no one could see. He called again, “Michael?” And he heard his voice, “Yes! I am busy”. The aide looked up in the dark, up above and there was Michelangelo on his back with a painting brush in between his teeth and one in his hand and his palate in the other, he was painting the feathers of one of the angels where no one will ever see.  The aide asked him, “Michael, what are you doing up there?” He answered, “I am painting the ceiling.” The puzzled aide said, “but…but you are putting details on the feather of the wings of an angel in the dark, behind the post, above the nave, behind the rafters where no one will ever see it. Why waste time??” And without catching his breathe, Michael spoke through the brush in between his teeth, “But God sees it!” And he kept on painting……

Sistine Chapel in Rome

In the quiet and sunny afternoon, after I put my daughter to sleep, as I was arranging all the things for Asher to do this activity, I asked myself, if my daily efforts of teaching him and creating memories of learning for him would ever be noticed and truly understood by anyone. I wondered if they will ever be treasured by him when he grows up.  Amidst these questioning thoughts, this story has spoken a promising message to my heart!

Perhaps my thoughts echo yours in some ways. Many of our daily tasks remain unobserved by others. They don’t generally get clapped for. They aren’t qualified enough to even become our Facebook or Instagram stories. As social media culture is about clicking, filtering, and uploading life’s wonderful events, Our everyday life work always remains unseen within the walls.

Raising and teaching children, running household errands, taking care of an unwell family member, caring for a special child, being there for a hurting friend, contributing your time and efforts for the vision close to your heart, working tirelessly for your family’s sustenance, just seem like you are adding details to the feather of the wings of an angel behind the post, up above in the nave, in the dark and musty place, behind the rafters, in the secret corner where no one will ever see. And just like the aide, we might ask ourselves, why waste time? …..Why waste life?… Will anyone ever value it? ….Will anyone ever notice?

But the assuring truth is, God sees it and this faith must keep us doing our life’s works with excellence for the audience of ONE.

Source: About Michaelangelo – Discovering Great Artists by MaryAnn F. Kohl & Kim Solga

When Dots Don’t Go Away

I felt frustrated over my lack of knowledge about the Zoom app’s settings. When it was Asher’s turn to present his video about Geography, the video wasn’t audible on the shared screen. In a much-panicked state, I tried but couldn’t quite figure out what went wrong. I felt embarrassed on that day. I began to criticize myself for being so dumb. I didn’t turn on my video for the rest of the session. I wanted to hide. The only thought that was crossing my mind was, “what would other moms in the home school community be thinking about my lack of technical skills??” 

Well, that was not the first time I criticized myself. I have been doing it often whenever I felt I was not measuring up. Whenever I felt I was not doing my best. Whenever I compared myself with others. Whenever I thought I was not being an efficient educator to my son or not being a good parent or just a person in general. And recently, I’d allowed my lack of technical skills to define myself and ruin my entire day.

How Far Have You Come?

My daughter will turn 8 this week. Walking down the memory lane of these past 8 years, I have been thinking that I have come a long way in raising a special child. A few months right after her birth, when her unexpected diagnosis hit us hard, I had no idea of how I was going to survive. But I did, she did and we as a family did. In one of the early years of her diagnosis, I remember saying to my husband that I didn’t want to live. The time was so disheartening and the situation was so unbearable.

The most painful and helpless time in a Mother’s life is to see her child suffer continuously and without any end in sight. It’s emotionally and physically challenging. The pain crushes your heart every single day and the worst of all is, you just can’t walk away from it. I still remember the moment, when she was born. My mother and my husband were literally crying out of happiness. The nurses were puzzled as they thought, they were unhappy with the birth of a girl child. Little did anyone of us know, that in a few months’ time the tears of gladness would turn into tears of grief.

I wonder, if she was a normal child, how would she look being an 8- year old girl today? What would she say? What sort of thoughts and ideas would she have? By now, she would be of the age to demand her wishes, likes, and dislikes. Probably, she would choose her birthday dress, and even admire herself in front of the mirror. She would be in grade 3 and would have a lot of questions for me just like her brother does. But the reality of her life is far different than we could have ever imagined in our wildest dream. All we have is her presence with us but not her relationship, her voice, her sight, her thoughts, her feelings, her demands, her laughter, her hugs, and her touch.

Before she was born, I used to admire little girls in pretty frocks. And I so wished I had a girl child. And I still admire little girls but now I see Jennie in them. I hate to admit but sometimes I also feel injustice done to her. Why couldn’t she be like other kids? Why can’t my son have his sister to play with? Why can’t she simply enjoy her childhood? The forever unanswered questions will remain and I may not have them answered on this side of heaven.

Life moves on. Tears, prayers, hopes, heartaches…repeat – this has been my life’s pattern for these many years. I have survived it. There were questions about the validity of my faith. I survived them. There were endless sleepless nights and tiring days. I survived them. There have been loneliness, anger, suicidal thoughts, and despairs. I survived them. There were judgments, criticisms, stares, and mockery for the challenges we face. I survived them. Knowingly, unknowingly or maybe on purpose, I isolated myself from people. And being almost all alone on this different path, I survived it. By falling, rising, moving, and enduring, I have come a long way…

But it doesn’t matter how far I have come, how much I have faced, or how much I have endured. What matters most, is who has brought me this far? Who has walked before me? Who has given me the strength to withstand? Who has picked me up and carried me in the valley of sorrows?

When we look back, we are tempted to focus much on the amount and intensity of our pain and how long we have endured it, often overlooking who was with us in the journey of our hardships.

In life’s unexpected storm and in the lonely paths, God walks through them all with us.

How far we have come in facing life’s storms, isn’t about our strengths but His alone. Because the more we follow Him, the farther we can go. His strength reflects through our endurance and our faith in Him. Our glory in Him outweighs our momentary pains. As our battles on earth are never ours to fight alone. They belong to God. He is victorious and so we are in Him.

A few months back, I received a book named “New in the Middle – facing hardship and moving forward” as a gift, which was sent to me by my friend Sarah Jose. She is the author of the book. It’s a book about her life journey through physical disability, chronic pain, loss, hard questions, faith, healing of her soul, and the newness of her life’s meaning and purpose. Through her brilliant artwork, she shares a profound message through the book. The title says it all – Facing hardships and moving forward.

In this gift, there was a small note written for me which reads – ” Elizabeth, you are a hero! I know you don’t always feel like one. None of us do. This book is written for friends like you who are living well despite many challenges. Keep moving forward! – Love, Sarah

I have always thought a hero or a champion is someone who always overcomes, who is always a winner, and definitely not someone like me who falls many times. But over time, I realized that triumph doesn’t mean never falling but rising up after each fall. Having faith in God doesn’t cancel our sufferings instantly but it gives us strength to keep going. Our pain becomes our greatest strength in His kingdom. Sometimes, our biggest victory isn’t about overcoming but withstanding and moving ahead. In this context, moving ahead in our faith in God despite the challenges of life, believing in His Word over the negative voices, doubts, and even the unexplainable circumstances, focusing on Him rather than focusing on the trials, seeing our pain in the light of His glory, and choosing His relationship over the benefits of it.

How far we have come and how far we can go always depends on how far we will follow Jesus. The farther we follow Him, the farther we can go. Sometimes, following Him means carrying our crosses alongside but the journey will be worth it.

How far have you come?

What They Say Isn’t True About My Daddy

I recently came across some memes on Instagram in which a person, who seemed to be an atheist, blamed God for the poverty in the world. There were pictures of refuge kids and the caption read – “God’s Vacation Pics”. Another picture was of a few malnourished kids and the caption read – “God has the most amazing plans for you”. He claimed that God doesn’t exist, if He did then there shouldn’t be children suffering from poverty, hunger and malnutrition.

One thing I don’t understand, if he believes there is no God, then why blame Him for the poverty? And how easy it is for people to create memes about the hungry kids, in the comfort of their houses and accuse God for His inexistence. Anyways…

These memes and much more very demeaning memes about Jesus and God in the person’s Instagram account were very disturbing to me personally. I don’t know much about atheism and why some people deny God’s existence. I can only assume it’s because God doesn’t do things as per their To-Do list.

It’s Okay Not To Be Okay – Voicing your silent battles….

“Don’t yawn! Don’t get bored! Pay attention and stay on your place! These are my prime instructions to my 9 years old before his online class on Zoom begins. But every time it seems like my instructions are falling on deaf ears. He does what he wants to do. 

Once I had to mute the speaker and turn off the camera to instruct him during the class strictly not to yawn constantly or show that you are bored. But his very frank response surprised me. He said, “Mummy, yawning is natural. I can’t stop it!” 

Children are amazingly honest with their feelings. In Asher’s case, he is the same in and out. If he is upset, he is. If he is happy, he is. If he is sad, he is. If he is bored, he is. There is no pretension of any kind, no mask of any other feelings over the real ones. 

I wonder, whether we outgrow the ability to be honest with our feelings as we grow up.  We don’t usually reveal how we feel. Do we? Especially the feelings of depression, negativity or sadness are the most suppressed ones. We are conscious of being judged by others. We wonder if others will criticize us for our pain. So we always want to put our best self forward. Under the “I am fine” phrase, we keep on fighting our silent battles.

Above all, we are Christians so we aren’t supposed to feel any negativity. We are supposed to choose joy everyday. How can one have negative feelings and claim to love or believe in Jesus?

We are told that being followers of Christ, we must be joyful always. The Christian life is a life of victory. We must focus on whatever is good. We must choose joy and cling to the biblical promises. We must consider our trials and tribulations as a furnace for refining our faith.

And I am sure all of us want to live our Christian life exactly this way. After all, who wants to live a miserable life right?

But there are times and I mean those toughest times, when nothing really makes sense in life. There is an ache in your heart which doesn’t go away. No amount of encouragement works. You can’t differentiate between the fixed mind-set and growth mind-set and which one you actually have. You aren’t able make lemonade from the lemons you get. No sermon or motivational book seems to help you. No matter how much you try, you just can’t see the silver linings around your clouds. Happiness seems everyone’s state of mind but yours. And all you want is to just feel numb for a moment.

There are times when Job’s or Joseph’s life-example doesn’t motivate you enough. Paul’s letters don’t bring any instant hope.  Nothing proves to be soothing for your aching soul. Though deep down you know that you trust in God and love Jesus deeply, but you just don’t feel like praying another prayer. Your cup seems to run dry. You cry yourself to sleep and getting up for another day feels like a huge burden for you.

And…and there are days when your prayers seem to hit the ceiling and come back to you. “This too shall pass” looks much like “this too shall last”. And you wonder day after day if there is any end to your challenges. And above all, God seems to be silent, distant and angry with you…

In his book “A Grief Observed”, C.S. Lewis describes God’s silence in this way – 

“When you are happy, so happy that you have no sense of needing Him, so happy that you are tempted to feel His claims upon you as an interruption, if you remember yourself and turn to Him with gratitude and praise, you will be – or so it feels – welcomed with open arms. But go to Him when your need is desperate, when all other help is vain, and what do you find? A door slammed in your face, and a sound of bolting and double bolting on the inside.”

We read in Psalms where David expresses his genuine feelings to God. He is so vulnerable and honest with how he feels and what agonizes his heart. And we see that he is always comforted by the Spirit of God at the end. 

“How long, O LORD? Will you forget me forever? How long will you hide your face from me? How long must I wrestle with my thoughts and every day have sorrow in my heart?” Psalms 13:1-2

Being real with your feelings can sometimes be hard. But choosing to be real is the way out. As long as you resist the pain, it will only intensify. So, if you feel like crying, just cry. If you want to stay alone for some time and process your feelings, just do that. If you want to just have some rest, allow yourself to rest. If you want to share your feelings with someone whom you trust, please do that. If you want to write down your feelings in a journal, do that (this has helped me a lot). But be open with how you feel.

You aren’t exaggerating them, you aren’t acting weird. It’s just natural that you don’t feel good. As they say, it’s just ok not to be ok. Keeping your true feelings suppressed will only do you more harm than any good. So let them vent out. At the end it doesn’t matter how many people you pleased by your smiling face but aching heart. Your life is yours and your mental health is your responsibility.

Feelings aren’t permanent. And you are not your feelings. They are just natural human responses to pain and challenging situations. In fact they are very necessary to address the cause of your pain, so you can know how things should look. Expressing your true feelings, shedding the suppressed tears aren’t the signs of your failing faith or distrust in God but it simply means you have been strong for so long, you still want to keep going but you just need some breather….you just need some time out.

And know this unchanging truth that no matter how hard you feel, God always remains by your side and walks you through this valley of sorrow. And His love for you never changes. He is your everlasting light. And this light is best experienced from the place of darkness!

Imago Dei – When God’s Image Shows Up

Our smoothly sailing life got a little bit ruffled with both of our kids falling sick at the same time. What was thought to be a common cold and cough worsened with time and both of them were admitted in two different hospitals. 

My son developed breathing difficulties and was kept in ICU for a couple of days for oxygen support and my daughter was beginning to develop pneumonia and was being treated for the same.

Things got disoriented and due to the COVID protocol, it was a bit challenging to deal with all the hospital procedures. While my husband stayed with my son, I stayed with my daughter in the hospital.

It was the first time both of them fell very sick together and we found ourselves stressed out both physically and emotionally. When my son was admitted in the hospital, his absence in the home made me saddened. The silence at home sounded louder than the noise and mess he used to make being at home. For the first time the house looked tidy, everything in the house was in its place, except him. My daughter on the other side was struggling with her health challenges. The fever and increasing cough made her too weak. When Asher was discharged, the same day she was admitted.

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This was a trying time for us as a family but God was with us. Most importantly, this time we could feel Him, hear Him, talk to Him, experience His help and His compassion, His touch, His assuring and comforting words and His presence in the most authentic and real ways. In other words we saw Him……

During this challenging period, we weren’t all alone. Our loving family members stood by us throughout this difficult time. Our friends came over to offer their help for the hospital stays and other related conveniences. The Esther prayer group’s sisters offered their continued prayers for us. Asher’s home-schooling community families supported us with their prayers and calls and few of my friends whom I had never met but who were just connected with me through the blog, backed me up with their messages and prayers. Also, we met very kind hospital staff and doctors who were so empathetic, caring and relational.

During my stay with my daughter in hospital, the nurses walked the extra mile with me as I looked after her. They helped me in ways which were not part of their duty. They offered their help in wonderful ways. When I was alone in the room with my daughter, some of the nurses would just come over to ask if I was OK. They would talk with me and listen long as I told them about Jennie. Some would simply visit to see if she was improving in her health. They called her “Vave” (baby) with love. They made sure that she gets less pain as they gently inserted cannula, gave injections and took out blood for the tests from her fragile hands. Every evening, a very graceful and softly-spoken catholic nun would visit the patients to pray for them. When she would visit us, she would run her fingers through Jennie’s hair and talk to her. She would spend extra time to know about her health.

Through these supportive, loving, kind, helpful and caring people, we experienced God’s constant presence with us in our hardships. He showed up through the people whom He put in our lives. 

I am a “let me carry my own cross” type person. I hesitate to take help from others. I am like that drowning man who trusts God for his rescue but refuses to take help from the people who are willing to help him. He believes that God will save him but He doesn’t realise that God is helping him through the people He has sent for his rescue.

In the creation narrative in Genesis, we read that God made man in His own image and likeness.

“So God created man in His own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.” Genesis 1:27

As I think deeply about this verse, I understand that God has endowed His attributes upon humans as He created them. Man is to show God’s invisible image through his visible life. It’s not that God possesses human-like features but it’s more about God’s Spirit which dwells in humans. God is invisible, He is a Spirit but He surely manifests himself through humans – His unique creations. Humans are the visible reflections, the imprints of the invisible God.   

In Asher’s English grammar syllabus, I was confused in classifying “God” as a concrete or abstract noun. Concrete nouns name a physical object which can be experienced with the five senses while abstract nouns are a concept, quality or condition which can’t be experienced with the five senses. We can’t sense God through five senses. We can’t see Him, hear Him, or touch Him. So how can we put God in the concrete noun category? We can…because the world He made is concrete. His Son Jesus whom He sent was in the human form and the human beings He created in His image and likeness are concrete too. Through them we can definitely sense God, His touch, His healing, His voice, His comfort, His assurance, His love, His kindness, His compassion and His blessings too.

I have no answers to the question, “why are sufferings there and why does God allow them?” But I am beginning to realise that it’s only in the midst of pain we can fully experience His healing touch; only in need we can fully experience His provision; only in brokenness can we fully experience His love; only in loneliness can we fully experience His presence; only in hardships and emotional upheaval can we fully experience His comfort and only in the life’s storms we can fully experience our faith in Him. When there is pain, there will be love, mercy, compassion, comfort, care and empathy and we as His image bearers are called to demonstrate them to the suffering world through our lives.

We are the “Imago Dei“, His image; the concrete reflection of Him to the world. Let others see Him and experience Him through each one of our lives! 

Do You Consider “Small Things” Small?

“Do Small Things With Great Love” – My T-shirt has these words written on it. I often wear it at home but never really reflected on its message. Interestingly, who really wants to do small things or even regard them as important right? To be honest, all of us wish for doing something big, something extraordinary and remarkable, something which will bring us applause, admiration, recognition and probably self-satisfaction and a sense of greatness.

The world tells us to go big or go home. You are only admired and considered great when you are successful enough in every area of life. So, somehow we have subscribed to this notion – Big things = Greatness.

For most of my life, I’d believed the same thing. Perhaps, this was one of the reasons I was never quite content with the life I was given. I tried having it all fixed together. I begged God to change my circumstances. I cried millions of tears for having children with special needs. I wanted a different life. Being there for my children’s needs felt like I was trapped between four walls at home. I tried doing different things and works which I thought would bring value to my life and a sense of greatness and fulfilment. I tried to search meaning and purpose for my life outside of God’s plans. Instead of paying close attention to what He wanted me to do, I went on to navigate what I wished for. I refused to do “small things” in order to do big things and do them merely for some sort of recognition.

The Guessing Game Of “Whys”

The people who struggle with life’s challenges, loss, grief, or any other major hardships or painful tragedies, constantly wrestle with the question “why?” They can explain to you what has happened, when it has happened, where it has happened, and how it has happened, but the “whys” remain unanswered most of the time. And we aren’t an exception to this either. My husband and I are trying to make the best sense of our different life, we are trying to overcome our pain with hope, positivity and perseverance, and we are also trying to find the “why” along the way in our daughter’s case. 

Sometimes, It’s a hard situation to be in. It’s a whirlpool of different emotions, thoughts and unanswered questions. But what makes it even harder is when others try to assume different answers to those “whys,” when others try to fill in those blanks with the reasons they want to choose. Its hard when others play the guessing game for your “whys”.

A person we met recently, claimed that our daughter’s medical condition is a result of a servant of God cursing our family. Further, if there are any grudges we hold against anyone, we must reconcile with them. He was sure that there is a curse on our family. He shared this out of his personal experiences. We were meeting him for the first time. His statements seemed humiliating as well as sort of disturbing to our nearly healed wounds. We wondered: How could he be so insensitive?

From Alone To Belong

Home-schooling my son has been a lonely and daunting journey for me for the last three years. I can’t tell you the number of times I wanted to quit as there were times I just couldn’t make it successfully through the day.

I had always felt inadequate being his teacher. My graduate studies are incomplete, which made me doubt even more my abilities as a better educator. I had tried my best to teach him but I was always concerned that he might miss out on the essential things in his studies which only a proficient teacher can teach.

He is being home-schooled by me because he was denied admission in schools due to his inattention issues. It was disheartening to see him being rejected. The rejection could make things even emotionally difficult for a 6 year-old. I didn’t want his gifts and skills to be trampled on before they blossom. So, I needed to take initiative to continue his studies despite my challenges.

These years I have been in a fog of confusion.  Even as I felt lonely, my son felt lonely too, as he couldn’t be a part of any school and have friends. I have been praying and searching for a suitable school, or an experienced home-schooling family which might guide me along. But there wasn’t any evident result of my persistent search or answer to my prayers.